An Open Letter to the Class of 2020
By Katie, a 2020 senior
Wow! If you told me in January that we would be completing the Spring 2020 semester remotely, I would’ve thought you were joking. But, here we are. As a senior, I feel devastated. Many other people are experiencing losses large and small at this time, but all losses are legitimate. So, I thought I would write this honest blog post about how I’m coping with being a senior during the COVID-19 Pandemic.
When the COVID-19 events began during Spring Break, I reacted to the pandemic by going through the five stages of grief.
First, I denied that a pandemic was occurring. My family, friends, and colleagues were all discussing COVID-19 and the possibility that classes might be put online, but I wouldn’t listen. I pretended nothing was going on in the world. After receiving The Email on Wednesday, March 11, I was forced to confront the pandemic and entered the anger stage.
After receiving the online classes announcement, I vented to my close friend for a while. I was so mad that the university was taking away the rest of my senior year for a little virus. At the time, I was not taking the virus seriously. Once I had cooled off, I began bargaining, hoping life would change for only a short time.
During my days of bargaining, I chatted with family and friends, constantly probing them to confirm my dreams of school returning to normal operations. I reassured myself that I would be back on campus after a week of online classes. Staying home for a week was a minor life interruption that I could handle. My hopes crashed when I received my move-out notice. With all these changes at UNC, I knew online classes would be permanent, and I entered my depression stage.
My depression stage cycled between accepting and grieving. I would grieve the loss of in-class interactions and feel better, only to remember another life change. No more roommate, lectures, walks through campus, club meetings, graduation, and so on. Even now, I miss these different aspects of campus life. But I didn’t want to stay sad forever and miss the wonderful memories that could still be made.
As days passed, I slowly accepted my new world. This acceptance didn’t happen easily. I had to change my schedule and try new at-home learning strategies. After trying to view all these changes in a positive light, life got better for me.
My coping strategies
- Planning every hour of my day: When I plan out every hour, I have a schedule and a routine. Schedules and routines are so soothing in these crazy times, at least for me. I’ve been using the Learning Center’s hour-by-hour worksheet, and it makes my life so much better.
- Taking breaks away from my “work zone”: I don’t have a desk, so I take up most of my kitchen table with school supplies. Stepping away from this area to relax prevents me from getting consumed by schoolwork.
- Connecting with friends through Zoom, text, and video chats: Because I can’t see friends in-person, I try to text or call everyone daily. It really helps me to know that other humans are out in the world.
- Walking around outside: In the words of Elle Woods from Legally Blonde, “Exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy!”
These coping strategies help me be productive and enjoy life during these difficult times. Now that I’ve grieved and accepted what I’ve lost, I can move forward with life. I have closure for my senior year of college. I won’t look back and regret the times I could have had over these last five weeks of class. I will look back at all the wonderful memories I had on campus and while at home.
Also, Class of 2020, just remember:
Legally Blonde. Directed by Robert Luketic, performances by Reese Witherspoon, Luke Wilson, Selma Blair, and Matthew Davis. MGM Distribution Co., 2001.
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